Nowadays, a large number of couples end up separating, and many times it happens after a short time of living together. The reasons why this happens is due to the hormone
characteristics of sexual intercourse.
From an evolutionary point of view, human beings are conditioned to spread our genes so widely as possible, that is to say, we are programmed to socially relate, meet each other, fall in love, copulate to conceive children, and after a certain time know another person and repeat that same procedure.
Men try to spread their genes, being strongly attracted by any fertile woman with desirable physical characteristics, and although women are sexually attracted by attractive, handsome men, often women choose their partner based on the resources or as the ideal person for paternity.
What happens after pregnancy?
When a woman goes through pregnancy and gives birth, she keeps a high level of prolactin and instead of having an affectionate relationship with her partner; she changes those oxytocin bonds , those affective bonds, and gives them to the baby. In this situation sex is hormonally undesirable, and any orgasmic sex leads to more hormonal and emotional instability.
Therefore, everything that is currently happening in our society is perfectly understandable from the evolutionary point of view. Other factors could also be considered, such as health and well-being, which are highly important to have a harmonious long-term relationship.
We could summarize the evolution of a couple as we initially are together by an infatuation, which produces a high level of oxytocin and we enjoy the exciting charge of dopamine in sexual encounters. Gradually, the shining of dopamine shuts off, and we stop being in love, and therefore, keeping satisfying and exciting sexual intercourse, turns more difficult to achieve. We start to see the defects and flaws of the couple which we did not see before due to the effects of the high levels of oxytocin, and intercourse decrease.
When we are already at this stage, we tend to increase irritability, resentment, frustration, blaming each other and similar negative emotions, for which a desire of separation would be developed.
However, many couples refuse to feel this way and try to solve it, trying to innovate in their sexual relationships, and for it erotic massages in couples is a much recommended and highly beneficial option.
