Sex is all around us, but many of us are still confused.
We may need to delve inward and gently remind ourselves of the vast beauty our bodies hold, depending on what is going on in our life. Only then can we begin to feed our desires.
While reading may not be the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to improving your sex life, the best sex books can have a significant impact. To be worthwhile, a book about sex must be written by someone you trust and not too clinical or…dry.
Here are a few of our personal favourites when it comes to sex literature.
Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski
In this now-classic book on the science of women’s sexuality, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and former Kinsey Institute researcher, analyses the ways humans experience pleasure. It’s a nonjudgmental examination of sexual desire, supported by scientific study and statistics. As Nagoski demonstrates, an orgasm does not have to be elusive, and a satisfying sex life is more than simply what’s between the covers.
The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
This underground blockbuster by therapist Easton and writer Hardy, published in the 1990s, offers readers excellent psychological guidance for establishing healthy, trusting love and sexual relationships with more than one person at a time. It popularised the word “polyamory” for multi-partner relationships and dispelled decades of myths about non-monogamy by demonstrating that not all of these partnerships were harmful “cheating” arrangements – instead, they might be just as healthy as monogamous ones, if not more honest.
The Body is Not an Apology, by Sonya Renee Taylor
Sonya Renee Taylor is a poet and activist. She walks readers through new ways of awakening love for the body and dismantles guilt imposed by society in “The Body Is Not an Apology.” Taylor’s book encourages us to find peace within the lovely bodies we were given at birth.
101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples, by Laura Corn
If you want to try something new and shake things up in the bedroom, 101 Nights of Great Sex is a must-have. It’s described as “not a book you read, but a book you ‘do’ as you do your partner,” and it’s filled of 101 fun’seductions,’ with suggestions to help you play out your sexual dreams and find new ones. Naturally, over one million people have purchased this book, and many credit it with raising their sex drive and igniting their sex life, both alone and with their partner. One of the most in-depth sex books available will provide you with essential tools.
Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex
If you’re familiar with sex toys, you’ve definitely heard of Babeland, the sex-toy boutique famed for making buying for a vibrator a pleasurable experience. And, look at that, they wrote a book with the same pleasant experience in mind. This book is detailed and entertaining, with photographs and anecdotes from real people. It definitely offers something for everyone.
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It
Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., a psychology professor and human sexuality expert, brings together biology, sociology, language, and sex therapy in Becoming Cliterate to create a thorough, accessible, and practical book about orgasm equality (and how to get it).
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
This book was crucial in my quest of sexual self-discovery. The writers pinpoint and explain the origins of many deeply held restrictive views about sexuality. They investigate how personal prejudice, social norms, and heteronormativity impact even scientists. The fact is that we must all learn what we think about sex, gender, and love for ourselves…through experience!
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, by Ian Kerner
Ian Kerner gives tactics and ideas for a happier, more enjoyable sex life for both her and him in this book. The author’s goal is to assist males learn how to guide a woman through the complete arousal process again and over again.
The Vagina Bible, by Dr Jennifer Gunter
Do you know what the purpose of pubic hair is? What about the causes of yeast infections? Is the G spot real or a myth? When you’re confronted with conflicting information concerning the vulva OB-GYN, it’s difficult to make an informed decision. Jen Gunter is here to help with some of the questions. The expert on women’s bodies explains all you need to know about reproductive health, the newest fads and trends, and why you shouldn’t believe everything you read on the internet in her book.
Pleasure Activism, by Adrienne Maree Brown
Adrienne Maree Brown, an author, activist, and doula, argues that the pursuit of pleasure is not only important for survival during a revolution, but it is also a revolution in and of itself. Her concept encompasses all aspects of life, from physical activity to friendship to employment. She’ll also provide homework tasks for you to do so that you can put your delight into practise.
Human Sexual Response, by William Masters and Virginia Johnson
This book, published in the late 1960s, investigated the physiological elements of sex and popularised the concept of the “sexual response cycle.” The researchers had placed a large number of volunteers in a machine that recorded heart rate, galvanic skin reaction, and muscular contractions as the subjects masturbated to orgasm. As a consequence, Masters and Johnson were able to identify the four stages of arousal and orgasm: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution, each with distinct physiological symptoms ranging from a heated chest in plateau to involuntary muscular spasms every.8 seconds during climax. Surprisingly, this book is no longer in print.
Sex Up Your Life: The Mind-Blowing Path to True Intimacy, Healing, and Hope By Julie Archambault
Great sex is more than just recreating porn for women and mastering physical tactics. It necessitates self-actualization and inquiry, as author Julie Archambault discusses in her book, Sex Up Your Life. The book examines how our sexuality effects our personal growth and inner tranquilly as an in-depth investigation of sexuality. Relationships, sex, and personal development all complement each other, according to author Julie Archambault. A compilation of personal experiences and interviews urges readers to investigate their preconceived concepts about sexuality and erase damaging attitudes in order to achieve a sex-positive mentality, deeper closeness, and, eventually, a happier sex life.
Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm
It’s no secret that women don’t always experience orgasm during sex, but that doesn’t mean you should give up. Slow Sex will teach you the technique of orgasmic meditation, also known as the very personal way to complete your lover. Slow and steady makes things extra hot in this scenario. I highly suggest it.
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
In this work, the great Esther Perel analyses the relationship between domesticity and sexual desire from a fresh and daring perspective. She asks questions such, “Does excellent closeness always imply good sex?” It will truly make you reconsider how we define intimacy.
50 Great Myths of Human Sexuality, by Pepper Schwartz
This book aims to debunk frequently held myths and misunderstandings about human sexuality. The writers’ goal is to teach readers how to have a safe, enjoyable, and healthy sexual life.
More Orgasms Please: Why Female Pleasure Matters, by The Hotbed Collective
Orgasms, in general, feel fantastic, but do they accomplish anything else for your body? In More Orgasms Please, the hosts of the extremely informative podcast The Hotbed Collective share what they know about the advantages of orgasms. Orgasms, according to their book, make you appear younger and relieve stress. They’re also free, and you’re not going to run out of them. This is everything there is to know about completing.
So Tell Me about the Last Time You Had Sex, by Ian Kerner
What is your regular calendar of events when you and a partner are busy? Ian Kerner, a sex therapist, refers to the patterns we get into during intercourse as our “sex script.” Kerner helps you identify what about your script seems stuck or unsatisfied by drawing on decades of professional expertise and cutting-edge sexual research. Then he assists you in rewriting it.
Evolution’s Rainbow, by Joan Roughgarden
Roughgarden, an evolutionary biologist, was one of the first to put together various research on sexual variation in nature — from fish that change sex to hermaphrodites and gay animals — and explain why this sort of diversity would have developed. She contends that sexual variation is entirely normal, and that homosexuality and transsexuality in humans are far from Krafft-definition Ebing’s of “deviant.” It is, after all, a component of what makes humanity and many other creatures successful.
All the F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life
Consider Gigi Engle to be the experienced elder sister you never had—or, at the very least, a far more educated version of the one you had. Gigi has been through it all and wants you to learn from her love and sex missteps. This is a must-read for anybody interested in masturbation courses or unabashed hooking up tips.
The Penis Book: A Doctor’s Complete Guide to the Penis – From Size to Function and Everything in Between
Aaron Spitz, M.D., worked as an assistant clinical professor in the Department of Urology at UC Irvine for 15 years and leads you through everything from sexually transmitted illnesses to the science of blood flow for maximum penile health in his book. It’s a must-read for everyone who has the appendage or comes into touch with them.
